books on marriage
Married But Lonely by David E. Clarke
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Seven Steps to a New Husband!
You married a good man. He loves you. He’s committed to you. He treats you well. You fully and sincerely appreciate who he is and what he does for you and for the family. The problem is, he does not meet some of your most important, God-given needs. Eighty-five percent of all husbands are intimacy-challenged. Your conversations are brief, safe, and superficial. He does not reveal what he’s really thinking and feeling inside. He believes your marriage is great. He’s perfectly happy…and the intimate, romantic, emotional part of you is dying a slow death. Working together, the two of you can create an intimate marriage. In Married…but Lonely Dr. David Clarke will show you seven steps that you as the wife can implement with or without your husband’s cooperation and begin to experience the kind of marriage you’ve always wanted.
Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs
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Cracking the communication code between husband and wife involves understanding one thing: that unconditional respect is as powerful for him as unconditional love is for her. It’s the secret to marriage that every couple seeks, and yet few couples ever find.
When Sinners Say “I Do” by Dave Harvey
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When Sinners Say “I Do” is about encountering the life-transforming power of the gospel in the unpredictable journey of marriage.
Sheet Music by Kevin Leman
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Sex is about the quality of your entire love life, not just the alignment of your bodies. This book will expand and challenge your thinking, help you start your marriage off right, or go from humdrum to exciting if you’re already married.
Intimate Issues by Dillow and Pintus
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You want sex with your husband to be fulfilling. But can sex be both sensuous and sacred? Written by two mature wives and Bible teachers, Intimate Issues answers the questions women most frequently ask about physical intimacy. Through its solid teaching, warm testimonials and biblical insights, your’ll come away with full permission to be the best lover you can be! Includes discussion questions at the end of each chapter; a secret, sealed challenge to be read only after your’ve finished the book; and a 12-week Bible study on becoming a Godly and sensuous wife.
Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas
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Your marriage is more than a sacred covenant with another person. It is a spiritual discipline designed to help you know God better, trust him more fully, and love him more deeply. Scores of books have been written that offer guidance for building the marriage of your dreams. But what if God’s primary intent for your marriage isn’t to make you happy, but holy? And what if your relationship isn’t as much about your and your spouse as it is about your and God?
For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn
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What the author’s research reveals about the inner lives of men will open women’s eyes to what the men in their life – boyfriends, brothers, husbands, and sons – are really thinking and feeling. This book will guide women in how to provide the loving support that modern men want and need.
For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhahn
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Through hundreds of interviews and the results of a scientific national survey o women, this book demonstrates that women are actually not random and that they really can be systematized and “mapped”. In fact, much to men’s delight, this book shows that women are actually quite easy to understand and please – as long as you know what it is they need. This simple map will guide you to loving your wife or girlfriend in the way she needs to be loved.
Why Can’t You Read My Mind? by Jeffrey Bernstein, PhD and Susan Magee
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Most people think that poor communication is the reason why so many relationships end, but it’s actually the way we learn to think about our partners and our problems that kills trust, erodes intimacy, and cripples communication. In Why Can’t You Read My Mind?, psychologist Jeffrey Bernstein reveals-for the first time-the nine toxic thought patterns at work in virtually every relationship, and shows couples how these distorted, negative, exaggerated thoughts can poison their love and end their union. With warmth and wisdom, Bernstein offers a simple yet powerful approach for breaking the toxic thinking cycle and helps readers establish new and more positive thinking habits for solving their problems and dealing with the stresses of everyday life. Packed with practical advice and valuable insights, Why Can’t You Read My Mind? makes it possible for couples to remain in or return to loving relationships permanently, and points the way toward finding a truer kind of love with one another for the first time. Perfect for couples wanting to maintain their loving relationship as well as for those working to restore their love, this book provides the missing link, enabling couples to beat the relationship odds and sustain a long-term relationship.
I Married You Not Your Family by Linda Mintle,PhD
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Dr. Mintle, a marital therapist in clinical practice for more than 20 years, mixes research, experience, biblical principles, insight, and wisdom to provide strategies to turn around a marriage. I Married You, Not Your Family provides the strategies necessary to turn your marriage into the “happily ever after” you’ve dreamed of.
How to Argue So Your Spouse Will Listen by Sharon Morris May, PhD
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If you are a couple, you’ve most likely had an argument. Big or small, it can ruin your day and, even worse, your relationship. Dr. Sharon Morris May says, “It’s not how similar you are or even your level of conflict that determines your marital success but how you deal with your emotions, vulnerabilities, and dragons when you argue.”
Dr. Sharon views conflict through the lens of the attachment theory, helping us understand: why we argue, how we argue, and how to unravel our arguments. She helps us identify what’s really going on in our brains and body when we argue, the cycles we get stuck in, the emotions fueling the cycles, and then helps us to argue in more considerate and connecting ways. She also offers six practical principles that help turn arguments into conversations.
Fighting for Your Marriage by Howard Markman, Scott Stanley, and Susan I. Blumberg
Fighting for Your Marriage is based on the widely acclaimed PREP (Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program) approach. Groundbreaking studies have found that couples can use the strategies of this approach to handle conflict more constructively, protect their happiness, and reduce the odds of breaking up.
Love Talk by Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott
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A breakthrough discovery in communication for transforming love relationships Over and over couples consistently name ‘improved communication’ as the greatest need in their relationships. Love Talk—by acclaimed relationship experts Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott—is a deep yet simple plan full of new insights that will revolutionize communication in love relationships. The first steps to improving this single most important factor in any marriage or love relationship are to identify your fear factors and determine your personal communication styles, and then learn how the two of you can best interact. In this no-nonsense book, ‘psychobabble’ is translated into easy-to-understand language that clearly teaches you what you need to do—and not do—for speaking each other’s language like you never have before.
Boundaries in Marriage by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
Learn when to say yes and when to say no–to your spouse and to others–to make the most of your marriage Only when a husband and wife know and respect each other’s needs, choices, and freedom can they give themselves freely and lovingly to one another. Boundaries are the ‘property lines’ that define and protect husbands and wives as individuals. Once they are in place, a good marriage can become better, and a less-than-satisfying one can even be saved. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the award-winning best-seller Boundaries, show couples how to apply the 10 laws of boundaries that can make a real difference in relationships. They help husbands and wives understand the friction points or serious hurts and betrayals in their marriage—and move beyond them to the mutual care, respect, affirmation, and intimacy they both long for. Boundaries in Marriage helps couples: * Set and maintain personal boundaries and respect those of their spouse * Establish values that form a godly structure and architecture for their marriage * Protect their marriage from different kinds of ‘intruders’ * Work with a spouse who understands and values boundaries—or work with one who doesn’t
I Love You More by Les and Leslie Parrott
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How to make the thorns in your marriage come up roses. The big and little annoyances in your marriage are actually opportunities to deepen your love for each other. Relationship experts and award-winning authors Les and Leslie Parrott believe that your personal quirks and differences—where you squeeze the toothpaste tube, how you handle money—can actually help draw you together provided you handle them correctly. Turn your marriage’s prickly issues into opportunities to love each other more as you learn how to build intimacy while respecting personal space, tap the power of a positive marriage attitude, replace boredom with fun, irritability with patience, busyness with time together, debt with a team approach to your finances . . . and much, much more. Plus—get an inside look at the very soul of your marriage, and how connecting with God can connect you to each other in ways you never dreamed.
Love Must be Tough by James Dobson
You’ve forgiven a thousand times. You’ve bent over backwards to make your partner feel loved and accepted. But the only reward for your loyalty has been anger, indifference, infidelity, or abuse. Your spouse may even be ready to walk out the door.
Do you feel like all is lost? Are you ready to give up? There IS still hope.
Dr. James Dobson’s “tough love” principles have proven to be uniquely valuable and effective. Unlike most approaches to marriage crisis, the strategy in this groundbreaking classic does not require the willing cooperation of both spouses. Love Must Be Tough offers the guidance that gives you the best chance of rekindling romance, renewing your relationship, and drawing your partner back into your arms.
Bonding by Donald Joy
The need for intimacy with others was built into the fabric of our being by the Creator. Donald Joy explains the twelve steps of bonding which occur naturally throughout the world in human relationships. This book explores the formation of relationships, issues surrounding dating and marriage, and the prevention of inappropriate bonds.
ReBonding by Donald Joy
In Re-bonding Dr. Joy addresses the painful issue of relationships that have been damaged. Many people today are experiencing the anguish that results from premarital sex and marital infidelity. Is there any hope for healthy relationships once a relationship has been damaged or broken? Find help for hurting people who need to experience the healing touch that only Jesus can give.
Love and War by John and Stasi Eldredge
With astonishing vulnerability that engages readers from the first page, John and Stasi Eldredge openly discuss their own marriage and the breakthroughs they have won from the challenges they’ve faced. Each talks to the reader about what he and she have learned, providing a balance between male and female perspectives that has been absent from previous books on this topic.John and Stasi begin Love & War with an obvious confession: Marriage is fabulously hard. But beneath and behind the inevitable tensions a man and woman “locked in the same submarine” are going to have, the real battle is against the work of the Enemy, who plots and schemes to tear love apart. The Eldredges show how couples can win “by fighting for each other, instead of against each other.” As they say, “We live in a great love story, set in the midst of war.”
His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley
In the classic bestseller His Needs, Her Needs, Willard F. Harley, Jr., identifies the ten most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to satisfy those needs in their spouses. He provides guidance for becoming irresistible to your spouse and for loving more creatively and sensitively, thereby eliminating the problems that often lead to extramarital affairs.